Memories on My Death Bed
One year ago my father died. That made me think about my own life, what I have done with it so far and if I am where I thought I would be by know. In other words: I have thought about the memories I want to have on my death bed.
It Just Took a Phone Call
This time last year I was getting ready for Christmas. December is one of my favorite times of the year: I get to eat a lot of candy, there are always a lot of Christmas parties and George Michael sings Last Christmas by Wham on every radio station known to man.
But all of this was about to change and it took only a phone call.
Standing in the Same Room as Death
Instead of the joys of Christmas, last December was a long, dark walk towards the inevitable. My father died on the 21st and as I watched him in his long, cold forever sleep I hoped he had taken with him the memories that he wanted from this life.
Standing in the same room as Death it became clear to me how short this, my only life is. And if I want to have some great memories on my death bed I have to go out and make them myself.
I decided that from that day on I will not be afraid of changes, tasting new food or making decisions. I will fear the feeling of regret more than anything else. And since fear of regret is a fear I can do something about – the road lies open for many great memories.
It has a price to walk down you own path. There is always someones expectations that you crush, someone that will get disappointed. But of all the considerations you make – you should never let your own happiness come second to others expectations of you
Memories Worth Remembering
I do not know if my father had the memories he would like to have. But his death made me promise myself that I will do all I can to collect memories worth remembering. This requires a lot of courage since often great memories require making difficult decisions: To move to another country, to write better blogs or to ask for help when I need it.
I remember the word from the eccentric Norwegian businessman Petter Stordalen: It has a price to walk down your own path. There is always someones expectations that you crush, someone that will get disappointed. But of all the considerations you make – you should never let your own happiness come second to others expectations of you.
So in order to create and collect a few new memories I will travel to London in April and attend a seminar with Tony Robbins. Come May I will jump from a perfectly working airplane and do my first ever parachute jump.
I am looking forward to it like crazy.
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